Should Your Child Attend A Burial After Funeral Home Services?

Posted on March 16, 2020 by Mitchell-Jerdan Funeral Home Ltd. under funeral home
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When someone you know is having services at funeral homes in Charleston, IL, and you have a child in your family, you might wonder if you should take them to the services or not. You should not only consider the funeral home service, but also the burial option that takes place after. There’s no right or wrong answer and it can be a very hard question for a parent to consider. Here are a few things to think through as you make an important decision.

How Old Is The Child?

Think about your child’s age and, furthermore, their maturity level. A newborn baby isn’t going to know what’s going on at the service and while they might cry during the burial, they won’t be traumatized by anything happening, either. Toddlers and young children are harder, but by the time they reach age 10, they can often handle what’s going on and act as you ask. Decide if your child is capable and can handle the burial process.funeral homes in Charleston, IL

What Was Your Child’s Relationship To The Deceased?

You will want to consider how your child is connected to the person who passed on, if at all. If it’s their grandparent or someone they spent a lot of time with, they might need to go for their own sense of closure. Your family might expect them and want to see them there. If, on the other hand, it’s for a friend of yours that they didn’t really know, you might air on the side of caution and have them stay home with a sitter.

What Are Your Options?

If you have family members who aren’t attending the funeral, perhaps you can easily leave your child with someone you trust. If, on the other hand, you’re attending a funeral for a family member and everyone will be there, you may not have anyone to leave your child with. Consider your options and deal with what you have to do. If you have no choice but to take your child, there’s not any point on dwelling on whether or not to bring them.

What’s Your Escape Plan?

If you have to—or decide to—bring your child to the burial portion of the process, remember that you will be in a cemetery, in an open field. It can be hard to get a child away if they are crying or disrupting the burial process. Try to come up with a plan once you see how things are situated at the cemetery. Perhaps you can park close by so you can move them to the car where they can’t be heard quickly.

There are a lot of things to think through when you are attending services at funeral homes in Charleston, IL followed by a burial service. IF you need advice about whether or not to bring your child, Mitchell-Jerdan Funeral Home Ltd can give you input. Call us at (217) 234-8828 or visit us at 1200 Wabash Ave Mattoon, IL 61938.

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