Funeral Homes Can’t Resolve Everything
When you lose a loved one, you can take great comfort in funeral homes in Charleston, IL because they will help you organize final services and get everything lined up just as you want it to be to honor your loved one. However, there are other things you will have to deal with as you grieve, and the funeral home is not always the source you need to resolve those items. Here are a few things you could find to be true as you struggle with losing a loved one:
Memories Are Positive And Negative
It would be nice if the person who passed on left you with only positive memories, but that’s not common in any situation. Perhaps you fought with that person on occasion or maybe they did something that hurt you at some point and never apologized. It’s normal to recognize the good and bad qualities in the person who passed on. No one is perfect and that person is included. Don’t sugar-coat your memories of them and allow yourself to settle in on both memories you have of them.
Jealousy Could Arise
Whether you have lost a spouse, a parent, or even a grandparent, you might feel jealous of other people who still have that person in their life. It’s a normal feeling when you lose someone special to you. Keep in mind that it’s not anyone’s fault and you need your friends to support you. They will need your support when they lose that person in your life and they might find you even more supportive because you have been through it before.
Unresolved Feelings Can Surface
Not everyone gets to end their relationship with someone who passed away with an ‘I love you’ or another kind word. Perhaps they passed on and there was something unresolved between you that now is going to remain unresolved. Try to let go of the fact that you weren’t able to resolve things and write a letter to them to express your thoughts and feelings. There’s nothing you can do to get back those moments now so the sooner you can come to terms with those feelings, the better.
Grief isn’t a predictable process and there are going to be things that come up with you least expect them to. Remember the lessons you learned from the person you lost and try to keep the positive memories of your life when them alive to bring you as much peace as possible.
After you get help on final services from funeral homes in Charleston, IL, you can still return to the funeral home later for advice. The professionals at Mitchell-Jerdan Funeral Home Ltd won’t go anywhere once the services are complete. Call us at (217) 234-8828 and we can pass on grief support information if you find you need some extra help with your circumstances. You can also visit with us at 1200 Wabash Ave Mattoon, IL 61938 and we’ll do everything we can to support you before, during, and even after the funeral you arrange for your loved one.
